Monthly Archives: February 2010

A Rant on Narcissism

I realize that we all think highly of ourselves to the degree that we generally like to present ourselves in a favorable light. Put our best foot forward, look our best for the camera. But there is a line. A line that, when crossed, separates those with a healthy sense of self-worth from those who come across as unflatteringly arrogant and narcissistic. You probably have noticed that these individuals are especially prevalent across social media outlets, which in their very essence promote egotism.  Occasionally broadcasting a positive attribute or achievement is one thing, but constantly reminding  people of  how attractive, intelligent, and accomplished you are is quite another. These are not things you are supposed to tell people; these are things that should go unstated and that people should seemingly discover simply by knowing you. Daily reminders of your desirability and successfulness, no matter how true, only serve to display your vanity and insecurity. I am finished.

But before I sound caustic, let me clarify with this statement: I know many beautiful, hilarious, engaging, mesmerizing people and personalities, and the most beautiful, hilarious, engaging, and mesmerizing of them do not feel the need to regularly remind me of their awesomeness. The difference is modesty, and it is the most dazzling character trait of all.


Cory Branan’s Got an Evil Streak

And he is a lyrical genius.

And those are only two of the many reasons I am going to Otherlands to watch him play tonight. His clever use of words and playful language twists make a logophile’s heart flutter, and his guitar picking is out of this world. And he puts on a great show. And he told me he thinks I wear cute dresses (wait, how did that slip in there?!). Don’t mind me, just know that these are all good reasons to treat yourself to some stellar live music tonight at 8:00.

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Big Brother Big Sister

I am a Big Sister.

Not only am I a big sister to my handsome, hilarious, and personable little brother, whom I love with the deepest of sisterly loves (that’s for another post), but I am also a Big Sister according to the highly respectable non-profit organization, Big Brother Big Sister.

In college, I was an active member of a volunteer organization that gave me oodles of opportunities to touch lives; there were literally service projects at my fingertips for any time slot I desired. Once I graduated, that changed. The service projects were no longer sitting on my doorstep; instead, I would have to search this wide world and find them myself. After a little researching and a lot of praying, I was led to Big Brother Big Sister, which is a beautiful organization that helps children reach their potential through professionally supported, one-on-one relationships with mentors. They match children ages 6 through 18 with people who are devoted to developing positive relationships that have direct and lasting impact on these little lives.

After going through the interview process, I was eventually matched with an eleven year old girl desperately in need of a good friend and positive influence in her life. That was over a year ago, and since then Natasha and I have shared countless excursions involving laser tag, roller skating, movie viewings, museum visits, sporting events, library afternoons, and holiday activities, among other adventures. While the time commitment is substantial and sometimes overwhelming, the results are more than worth it. Watching a child soak up your love, encouragement, and guidance is an incredible blessing like no other.

If you are interested in getting involved with something bigger than yourself and making a profound impact on somebody’s life, perhaps Big Brother Big Sister is for you. It is such a rewarding way to put life in perspective, reach beyond your bubble, and do something solely for the benefit of another. I encourage you to consider it, and I’d be happy to talk to you about my experience if you have any questions.


i carry your heart with me

i carry your heart with me(i carry it in
my heart)i am never without it(anywhere
i go you go,my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing,my darling)
i fear
no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want
no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true)
and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you

here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows
higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart

i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)

ee cummings


In Loving Memory of Jim Prentiss

Two years ago today, my grandfather passed away. I miss his kind eyes and his limitless generosity, his cute smile and his warm heart. I miss his extraordinary talent for philanthropy, his entrepreneurial spirit, and his devotion to our family. You see, my grandfather, Jim Prentiss, is quite possibly the greatest man I have ever had the privilege of knowing. He tirelessly devoted his life to changing lives, to giving generously, and to making a lasting difference in this city. He had a huge heart for helping others, and by example, instilled that passion in those around him.

You would think a man who was chairman of the board of the Memphis Zoo and Memphis Food Bank; CEO of Shoney’s South; responsible for bringing us the Memphis Redbirds; selected into the Society of Entrepreneurs; and a former board member of the Memphis Chamber of Commerce, Boys’ Clubs of Memphis, MIFA, United Way, and handfuls of other organizations would be boastful, but my grandfather was far from that. His modesty and sincerity were tangible. He loved the Lord, and everything he did in this world was for His glory. The impact my grandfather made on this city is monumental, but that’s nothing compared to the impact he made on my heart.

I am so blessed to have had such an inspiring role model. I love you, Catfish, and look forward to our reunion in Heaven.


love, love, love, love, crazy love

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, I feel that now is an appropriate time to say… I do not give a flip about this holiday. No, I’m not bitter; in fact, I have a sweetheart who makes me swoon. I just think that love is a beautiful thing that should be celebrated continually, not only once a year on the arbitrary day Hallmark has designated. Sure, it’s sweet to be acknowledged on February 14th, but the heart of a relationship is truly revealed during the other 364 days of the year that aren’t dripping with chocolate and rose petals. Teddy bears and jewelry and cards are nice, but when given as obligatory Valentine schwag, much too predictable. A desperately needed hug after a long day, surprise snapdragons, unexpected treats, sincere compliments, and sharing the last piece of cheesecake – these are the things that make a heart double-beat. Your behavior on Valentine’s Day should not be the exception; it should be the norm. So go forth and celebrate your honey this weekend, just don’t drop the passion when February 15th rolls around.


MTV: Not Music Television

It’s a sad day, ladies and gentlemen. MTV no longer stands for Music Television. Not that we didn’t already know this. Over the years, MTV has drifted far, far from its original all-music premise and now devotes the majority of its air time to mostly ridiculous and worthless reality shows. But now the station’s execs are finally realizing this, and it is official; the logo has followed suit. It has been changed from the original version that we grew up on, back when MTV actually played music videos (gasp!),

to this updated version, which is similar, just conveniently shed of the underlying “Music Television” tagline.

Although this changes very little for me, as I haven’t watched MTV in years, it still feels like a slap in my generation’s face. Alas, I suppose it was time. Reality shows killed the video star.


Snow Days

Snow days make me happy. I thought they didn’t exist in the real world, but much to my delight, I have been proved wrong. This morning over the phone, my boss shattered that myth with two magical words: STAY HOME. For the second time this year! So here I am, lying on my (newly assembled) bed and admiring the scene below. I love it when God shows off. And I adore this beautiful winter wonderland He has created outside my window.

This day makes me smile because it is filled with such possibility. Suddenly my strict schedule of meetings and obligations has dissipated, and my day is completely open. I can do with it whatever I wish.  Like clean out my closet, run six miles, catch up on some reading, and watch a movie. Launder, organize, write, and play. Music to my ears.

And I’m off! Wishing you all a warm, safe, and ultra-productive day!

my backyard covered in snow



My favorite band is playing at Minglewood Hall tonight, and I am giddy. Even though I travel to see Lucero almost every time they play within a 200 mile radius of Memphis and have therefore seen them… oh… I’d say upwards of twenty times, I never get tired of their shows.  I’m crazy about the whole experience – the music is great for grooving, for singing along with, and for enjoying with good friends.  Lucero’s music has been described as many things, but no matter how you classify it, their songs speak to the human condition. Whether you are having a sunny day or a dark night, Lucero’s music melds to fit your mood.  It’s that good. In fact, it really don’t get any better than this….

Special thanks to the boyfriend for introducing me to this musical goodness over four years ago. We are looking forward to rocking with our fellow Lucero fans tonight!


she wrapped her arms around his waist > nowhere to run to anyways > they bolted out into the streets, unknown and beautiful > unknown and beautiful


Fresh Hats Tight Beats

“Mixing soulful, funky grooves with infectious jazzy, hip hop and even jungle beats, Fresh Hats Tight Beats achieves its goal of creating a futuristic sound that is guaranteed to make you move.”

Sounds enticing, yes? Then read on, blog followers, because my buddies of Fresh Hats Tight Beats need your help! Their beat project is in a contest where every download of their track counts as a vote. This is where we come in – just go to and download their newest track “See the Chain, Know the Biz” (it’s the first one listed). It doesn’t take long, it’s free, and it would mean a lot to these guys. The contest is over on the 7th, which gives us only a few more days to boost them to the top! Download and enjoy – that’s all there is to it.

Also, if you want to check out Fresh Hats Tight Beats live, they will be playing the Full Moon Club in Memphis this Saturday, February 6 at 9 p.m.

On behalf of the fellas at FHTB, thanks for the musical support!


Busy Little Bee

Blog readers, do not think I’ve forgotten about you! I miss you dearly and am itching to write again, I’ve just been such a busy little bee that I haven’t had the time. Between vastly productive work days, training for an upcoming 10k, playing in the icy mix, bible study with the girls, and an ever-growing to-do list that begs to consume the hours of my days, writing has just not been a pleasure I’ve been afforded. That will change soon, my friends. Please forgive me and know that I will be back and in action just as soon as a I can – hopefully tomorrow!